MINDSETS NOT TO BRING INTO 2020
Wow we are actually in 2020- the start of a brand new decade!
I don’t think I can remember what I was like 10 years ago, the aspirations I had and who I wanted to be. All I can remember is my 10th birthday party and being covered in icing because of all the doughnuts my dad had bought me.
I also remember one extremely embarrassing speech I gave at my mum’s 40th (which till this day she still likes to remind me of).
Now that I am 21 years old and it is 2020 I have many things to think about, such as my future.
I am not going to lie and say that thinking about my future doesn’t scare me, because it does. However just because I am scared doesn’t mean I am not going to prepare. This is what 2020 should be about, preparation.
Yes, we want to see results in 2020 and in this new decade. We want to see all our dreams, aspirations come true and we want to cease all the opportunities we can get.
Don’t get me wrong this is all a good thing, but how can we achieve all these results without being prepared!
The first step to being prepared in my opinion is to go into the new decade with the right mindset.
Have you ever heard the saying it all starts with the mind? Well what you think is how you will act.
I think it is so important in the new year to know the mindsets not to bring.
The first one is the mindset of ‘giving up.’
This mindset is all about doubting yourself and thinking you are not capable of doing anything. A lot of people approach the new year on one hand with new year resolutions and goals, meanwhile on the other hand some people don’t even set resolutions or goals because they have given up before even trying.
Individuals like this don’t believe in themselves or what they can do and some of them may have low self-esteem. I believe this all starts in the mind, when you think negatively and don’t have confidence in yourself then this is clearly going to project on the outside, as a result the way you act will be different.
You have to give yourself a chance before you think about giving up. I know for some people the reason why they give up is because they are afraid of failing, but failing is nothing to be afraid of it is actually something to embrace. When you fail, you learn and grow as an individual.
Yes, society tells us that failure somehow makes us imperfect. What you have to remember is that you were never meant to be imperfect in the first place, you are just meant to be YOU.
So, next time you feel like giving up remember to give yourself a chance!
The next mindset I want to talk about is this ‘comparison mentality.’
I hope you all have read my ‘Dangers of comparison‘ blogpost but if you haven’t you will be able to find it on the rest of my blog.
I know some of us probably spent the last month of 2019 comparing our achievements with others, I definitely did this myself, but then I realised that my year was my year it has nothing to do with anybody else. I stayed and slayed in my own lane and I will continue to do that.
So please, don’t start off the new year with falling into the comparison trap.
You have your own goals and aspirations and honestly that should stay between you and God. Once you start sharing your goals with other people, they may feel the need to start sharing their
opinions or even start sharing their own goals, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing but can lead to drawing differences and similarities between each other and eventually it will end up at comparisons.
Sometimes the easiest way not to look at the other cars is to not share your lane with them and I know some may not understand why you do this but they don’t need to because it is for YOU.
God made you to be your own individual and in this new decade He wants you to finally become that individual He has called you to be from the day you were born.
This won’t happen if you keep worrying and thinking about everyone else.
If you ever feel like comparing, remember these 3 Bible verses to say in your mind:
Galations 1:10: “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
Romans 12:2 (my fav): "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is- his good, pleasing and perfect will. "
Galations 6:4-5: “Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else. For each one should carry their own load."
The last mindset I want to talk about is not ‘feeling good enough.’
Let me tell you something, you are good enough.
You want to know how I am certain of this? It is because I know God created you.
Too many times, people have disqualified themselves (before even starting anything) btw because they believe are not good enough, and this stems from not knowing themselves. I want to tell you the only people who could ever qualify you are yourself and God.
If you don’t start to believe you are good enough, you will never be good enough. You have to know you are good enough despite your flaws, you are good enough even though people may not believe in you and even though you may not feel all that confident, you are good enough.
Another way to remember you are good enough is to understand that God created you. The very fact He created you to be on this earth shows you are good enough.
Can’t you see it? Why else would He create you? Because He knew you were going to do amazing things! Like it says in Jeremiah 29:11 He has nothing but good plans for you. But, how can He even begin to use you when have disqualified yourself from answering His call.
In this new decade, He is waiting for you to pick up His call. You better pick up!
I hope you have enjoyed reading this blogpost. Guess what I have another one coming out on Monday! Stay tuned.