• estherokusaga


Updated: Mar 4

I open up my Instagram and immediately I am sucked into a vacuum with all the Valentine’s Day cringeness.

I am thinking to myself wasn’t Valentine’s Day a couple of days ago?

Why am I seeing the classic hotel room photos with roses all over the bed and balloons spelling out ‘I love you’ surrounding the room?

Social media has come once again and I have fallen captive to it! And guess what. It has been less than 24 hours.

It is at this moment that I realise why I decided to take a break from social media in the first place.

I can hear the voices trying to make their way in, saying things like:

‘Why don’t you have a man?’

‘Who is going to love you like that?’

‘You are so alone.’

The difference is this time I know exactly what to reply to those negative voices.

I reply:

‘I don’t need a man to be happy.’

‘I am going to love ME like that.’

‘I am not alone, in fact I can never be alone because I have the most amazing Father.’

Once you start to switch those negatives social media loves to feed us, you begin to give less and less control to an app that can be easily deleted with a click of a button.

Don’t get me wrong once I opened my app and clicked on the stories, I felt like everybody had or was making so much progress with their lives, while me on the other hand being away from social media for over a month I couldn’t help but feel like I was the same person.

Yes, I might not have completely become that ‘Boss Babe’ I have always wanted to be. However, I have definitely grown as a female and just as an individual.

This is all as a result of deciding to be intentional with social media.

I had to make a choice, either I was going to spend hours and hours scrolling down my timeline for no good reason or I was going to use my social media accounts for good reasons.

Reasons that have nothing to do with the likes or the follows.

That is one damaging thing about social media, it makes us so obsessed with the likes and follows and because of this we begin to forget who we are without it.

Who are you without social media?

One large truth about social media is that if you are on it for long enough and give it so much priority it can easily become your identity.

Ask yourself this: Do you really want an app to become your identity?

If you don’t know the answer to this perhaps you need evaluate how much time you are spending on it.

This is one of the things I learnt having spent time away, if I cannot explicitly say ‘NO’ to the question ‘Am I giving too much power to social media,’ then I need to step back from it.

Spending time away has made me realise social media is adding nothing to my life. In the first couple days of my break I felt so relieved and then as the weeks went by I found myself feeling as though I didn’t want to go back.

I bet you all are now asking so why did I come back?

The simple answer is this: to spread my voice.

Another truth about social media is that it is a great tool. It is a fantastic tool to use in order to be heard.

My blog is one way for my voice to be heard and social media is simply there to help turn up the volume (I hope that makes sense).

So, overall I guess you could say I am saying bye to the voices and hello to the creations I am ready to make.

I know all of you have missed me (Esthessentials) and I have missed you too.

Get ready for some more honest posts like this one today and while you are at it, please follow my blog’s account on Instagram @Esthessentials_


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